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Spellbinding - Skills for Relationships

 

by Genie Z. Laborde, PhD

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Love is an Energy

This love energy is what creates, holds and nourishes your relationship. To keep your relationship energy at its peak, communication is essential. Communication is often blocked by two people who have different PERCEPTUAL PREFERENCES---who use different senses to make sense of their world and to create their individual reality. Each person's favorite sense-see, hear or feel-dictates what s/he notices in the world around them, and this preference molds their world. If two people have different preferences as to sensory data then their deep seated beliefs about how the world is, will block communication. This may not show up right away, but eventually the two realities will clash and problems erupt.

Here's a way to find out your favorite sense.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

VAK INSTRUMENT

Which of the following responses would you be the most likely to use?

  1. In response to the question, “How was your day?”

    a. Today was a good day.
    b. Our project  looked  more complicated today.
    c. The sound of people disagreeing kept interrupting me.
    d. I think I’m in the wrong job

     

  2. What was the most important event of this week for you?

    a. I can’t think of a thing right now.  Try me next week.  
    b. The concert on Wednesday night.
    c. Dancing with you.
    d. Seeing Monet’s “Water Lilies”  I have imagined that painting  for a long time.

     

  3. How would you spend today if we didn’t have to go to work?

    a. If I could hear the murmur of the ocean waves all day, that would be my idea of a perfect day
    b. I would join you for a hike in the hills.
    c. Looking for a new dress for the party on Saturday. I don’t have a thing to wear. 
    d. I don’t know how to answer that.

     

  4. When you graduated from High School, what careers were you considering?

    a. I wanted to be an artist.  Or an interior decorator
    b. I thought I’d be a rock star. 
    c. I wanted to play professional tennis.
    d. I had dreams of being a college professor.

     

  5. Would you like to go to a movie?

    a. Not tonight.  I’m much too tired. Maybe tomorrow night.
    b. Have you seen the one about Viet Nam?
    c. I would rather stay home and listen to some music with you.
    d. What’s on?

     

  6. Did you read that article about the war  in this morning’s paper?

    a. Are you referring to the one with the photo?
    b. I think I did.
    c. Read it to me.
    d. It makes me feel sick to read about it. 

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